The Power of Radical Self-Love
I read this book for a different book club than White Fragility, but by coincidence of timing I read them back-to-back, which made for a fascinating juxtaposition. Both books share a core of radical anti-racism, and really anti-ism in general. Both books talk a good bit about the importance of confronting your own internal biases, the bullshit culture we live in that is constantly reinforcing them, and about being open to criticism and change.
But while White Fragility is the no-nonsense tough older sister who calls you out on your crap and doesn’t let you weasel your way out of the hard conversations, The Body is not an Apology is the sweet younger sister encouraging you to do your best and letting you know that you are always great to her. Taylor digs deep into the idea of radical self-love. Not just self-confidence, self-respect, or self-acceptance, but full out self-love.
Much of what Taylor discusses–both the cultural history and sociological studies she runs through at the beginning and the practical tips and techniques later on–were already familiar to me from my prior readings on body liberation. However, Taylor has a wonderful voice and her writing is dense and punchy, her advice clear and sensible. The book is not long (116pp. in the trade paperback), which makes it a quick read. Ideal for foisting upon your confused friends and relatives who don’t understand why you are suddenly not participating in their self-critical social chatter.
The best thing about the book is its persistent grounding in what Taylor calls “Unapologetic Inquiries” and “Radical Reflections,” which ask the reader, every page or two, to delve into their own experiences and thoughts. This makes the book almost interactive in nature. In fact, I believe there will be a companion workbook published in early ’21. The reflective nature of the book makes it particularly useful for someone, like me, who is currently working through self-image issues and digging into their past, their preconceptions, and their goals through therapy.